Ohgoonthenanotheronefortheroad ·
11/02/2026 14:56
At my wits end today with my 14 year old daughter. It has been a downward spiral since towards the end of last year and she was diagnosed with ADHD around October time. Her behaviour at home was the issue but in school she was thriving - very academic, teachers thought very highly of her, volunteers and has lots of hobbies outwith school.
Her two closest friends cut her off after Xmas for what seems like no good reason and wouldn't explain what she had done, though they both said 'nothing'. She has found new friends at school but the new friends have quite different boundaries - allowed to vape, drink etc than what my daughter is used to.
I believe that the falling out has had quite a significant affect on her as it came from nowhere and she was left feeling really rejected and alone but her behaviour has escalated like nothing else. She has become increasingly aggressive towards me, has been known to hit me, coming up and screaming in my face, emotionally disregulated. The school have been in touch as a number of teachers are concerned about her lateness to classes, that she isn't herself and seems really down. She has been caught with a vape, though claims it's not hers.
She has a new boyfriend who seems nice but things seems to moving quickly When I have asked about this she says it's her body and can do what she likes so have started chatting about contraceptionx
When I try to have a chat about things, she's sometimes (rarely) receptive but mostly has attitude towards me and clearly can't stand me at the moment. She admitted today that she doesn't want to be here anymore but mainly places the blame on me for trying to put boundaries in place.
She is currently seeing a school nurse in school, we are waiting for (another) CAMHS appointment next week and I have ordered an ADHD prescription to try her on some
meds that we have been hoping to avoid. I am also in touch with the school. She has also had bloods done to rule out any medical reasons for the quite sudden change in behaviour.
If you have managed to read this far, thank you but I am wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and whether ADHD meds have helped in any way? I am at the end of my tether today and realise that some of this is 'normal' 14 year old behaviour but really looking for an advice from others that have been through this. Where do us Mum's go for help and support?! Has anything helped others bring a bit of peace and calm into the household?