Will DS do the thing??

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Ds needs to fill in some important forms. It's a really big deal, and it's an application for something that he wants to do. He will probably need me on hand to help with locating paperwork and finding some of the necessary info (plus he's very dyslexic, and filling in forms is not his favourite).

He is 17. I simply cannot be the driving force this time. It needs to come from him. He knows it needs to be done. He knows I have time to help this weekend.

It is KILLING me, waiting for him to get around to it.

Come ON my boy. Do the thing!!

I understand you don't want to be the driving force, it is very frustrating when you have to push someone the whole time, even when it is something they need or want to do.

But....if this is very important or life changing I might be tempted to say' I've got time now, shall I help you' - if of course he hasn't done it yet.

The trouble is, bring a parent, if you don't and he doesn't and therefore misses out, you will feel guilty, even though you shouldn't!
I hope he has done it!

I agree with moose.

Just offer to help him do it now. Possibly say your going to be to busy to help this afternoon/ evening. It could be that 'this weekend' is to vague a deadline for him to focus on, and won't feel real until 8pm tonight.

I know he should be doing it himself, but he is only 17. It's a tricky age because he's old enough that his decisions can effect the trajectory of his life, but his brain still hasn't finished developing, so he might still need a stear.

I’m waiting for my DD to do a thing, too. She knows when the deadline is (tomorrow). She definitely wants to apply for the thing. Fingers crossed she does it! It’d be such a good thing for her!

Come on young people do the thing.

I’m not sure why you can’t be the driving force this time? It’s a big deal for him so help him, he’s 17 not 37.

He did the thing!
I dropped some very heavy hints and the thing got done.

It's such a tricky path - I do get the people saying that if it's that important, just be the driving force for him. But I worry about how and when he will learn that skill for himself. And also, to really feel ownership of the thing, it needs to come from him. I think that at 17 he should feel responsibility for the thing, and if he doesn't, my job is to try and help him find that responsibility - not just feel the responsibility for him.

Did she do the thing??

"Right!! Come on son. Let's do these forms then I'll take you out to McDonald's (or something similar your son would like).

I asked her last night - I said you know your deadline - do I need to worry about that? She said no it’s all under control.

so I am hoping she has done it! Glad your ds came up trumps!