I'm totally fed up of arguments about the state of my daughters room, she flies off the handle if i ask her to even bring her dirty washing down. She uses sleep nappies because she wets the bed, she leaves them all over the floor in her room, which makes it stink. my husband says i should be more gentle with her but I'm working a full time job, then I have to deal with her mess and also we have a 4 year old son with autism so it's not like I sit on my bum all night when I get home. It's really driving me to the end of my tether, I'm so fed up of arguments about it. I've tried telling her off, giving her pocket money for doing it and praise. Nothing seems to work, it's making me feel like I don't want to be here anymore. She's had issues at School with other kids and we've supported her through that, we've taken her to the Dr's because we think she might have ADHD. I'm just finding it tough at the moment and I don't have any back up locally to me. Both my parents are gone and my siblings live far away from me, I don't have any local friends here as we moved to this area so that my husband could buy his Nan's bungalow and keep it in the family. Just after any advice at all really.