As the title suggests, I am exhausted and at my wits end.
DS is 19. He took a gap year this year, but hasn’t travelled or anything, so has just been at home. He does work, but only about 10 hours a week, early evenings.
My main problem (I have many others!) is that he almost completely nocturnal and disturbs my sleep every night.
He goes out at night - often to smoke weed. We have tried locking the doors and hiding keys but he’s been known to climb out of windows!
Even if he is quiet, he disturbs the dog who then wakes me up wandering about or barking to go outside.
DS was out tonight at a friends. He came home just after 1am and woke me up making food and listening to his phone loudly. He went to bed, but then woke me up again at 3.30 when he went to sit in his car. I could hear him talking in his car, so I messaged him to ask him to be quiet and now he’s driven off.
I am completely broken from lack of sleep. He is 19, so consequences are difficult. If he was staying out that late, I’d just lock the doors, but it’s the going out that is disturbing me and I don’t know how to stop him.
He is generally disrespectful and argumentative. I’ve tried so many times to have a conversation with him and it always results in him shouting. He is so utterly convinced that I am unreasonable that I start to doubt myself sometimes.
We have withdrawn all money, but if he runs out he borrows off friends. I have told him he’ll have to find somewhere else to live, but he’s got no one to live with, or enough money to fund it.
Has anyone else been in this situation or got any ideas to help. I do use earplugs and white noise, but I need to be able to listen out for the dog and younger dc.