Yr 11 son 1st girlfriend

[purplerain270]

So my 16yr old son spending day with gf an fam. Am I unreasonable to want to share contact details with his girlfriends parent?

Yes? He’s 16 and with responsible adults - make sure you’re saved on his phone as his emergency contact and they can contact you with that if needed.

Oh OK so I'm being overbearing? I just worry 😟

I would offer to have his gf round for a similar day in the near future.

Why do you need contact details? He can thank them for their hospitality himself and use his phone to invite gf on the future trip. He’s almost an adult and you should treat him like that.

If they were taking him abroad for a few days then I would offer my details for emergency purposes.

If course not. He's not on a play date.

Thank you, as I said just worry hence asking here.

Be kind pls

What specifically is there to be worried about?

Only if you insist on the same when he’s with his friends

Drop off pick up given don't drive atm?

Do you need contact details when he spends time with other friends?

He has a phone and can surely organise himself. If he needs picking up or dropping off he will communicate that with you himself won't he?

Yes and embarrassing for him

I trust my son,makes no diff if friend or gf.

He’s 16 YABU

I think it’s fine to do that if it would make you feel happier. I have slightly older teenagers and have been happy to give out my details to other parents when my sons were 16/17. It’s actually quite nice to have a bit of communication with other parents sometimes and has been useful in certain situations. Sometimes they’ve just wanted to say thanks for taking them somewhere or to have a chat about safe travelling late at night.
I wouldn’t expect her parents to mind. My sons and their friends seemed fairly chill about it.

I don't have a car atm, simply wanted to thank them an offer fuel expenses. Ob don't want to embarrass him an arranging time at home next time

yes overbearing - what are you worried about?

Thank you. Communication is all I ask. Appreciate your post.

What does this mean? What will give you peace of mind?

This
God forbid anything happens, u only have son/daughters number. An there's yours. Not reachable but could of had gf/bf parents number an vice versa.

No, past 16 I'd think it's for him to manage contact, especially as presumably he has a mobile. I'd feel a bit interfering asking that for a young person that age. If it becomes a serious, long term thing it might be reasonable for you to have her number if you can't get hold of him and he's with her and you can reasonably say she's kind of family once it's serious.

There will be lots of times in your childs life where you don't have the contact number of the people they are with. What are you going to do when they go to college, work etc?

For what purpose? Presumably he has a phone if there’s an emergency and he needs to contact you? With younger kids you do this because they quite literally can’t, and you’re vetting the company they’re in. He’s 16; he’s going to make his own choices now. The best thing that you can do at this point is ask a lot of open questions and always be ready to listen.

Thank you

Yabu