I have 2 girls, one 15 and one 18.
DD18 is in a gap year and working part time, responsible and conscious. Main concern is that she can be a bit lazy and spend too much time watching neflix,. She is off to university in September so not too worried as she will be busy.
DD15 is also a responsible and conscious girl, she is kind and respectful in general. Main worries is that she had a few issues with self harm when she was feeling low. 8 months ago when she was very unhappy in her school, we spotted it quickly, had chats with her, changed school, spend more time with her and this stopped; but she started feeling a bit low again last month and I noticed some self harm, again spoke with her, no judgement, just support, waiting for therapy so she can learn to understand and manage her feelings. However this situation has made me a bit nervous and I am frequently checking for her moods. I don’t think this is healthy. She is in a better school, has friends, goes out, etc. but it is at a tricky age where her brain is going through lots of changes.
How do I be a better parent for my teens without being over anxious and transferring all my worries.
I feel like my kids are in my mind most of the time: are they eating healthy, spending too much time on screens, doing excercise, happy, etc.