DD15 has had some incidents over the past few months with drinking too much, being unsafe, vaping, and one fall when incapacitated that ended up with a lot of stitches in hospital.
We have pulled back and are trying to set fair but manageable boundaries. We both work and have two other kids, she is pulling a lot of time and energy. She is year 11 and school work is underwhelming, her mock results would mean not getting grades for the courses she wants to do.
I understand however that she can't just be locked up with us. The problem is her friends parents are so lenient. They seem ok with drinking on the street, vaping, staying out really late drinking on the street etc etc. No social media or phone controls at all (I think ours are pretty lenient but have recently intensified as we have woken up to how much time was being spent on social media which she is livid about).
Has anyone got any advice for coping when peers are able to do things you cannot countenance so your child feels out of step and the result seems to be a lack of freedom that is noones ideal situation?!