Is this normal?

[Cowsontheloose]

Hi. I have a 14dd.
She has, in the past, done loads of extra curriculars. She has quit kickboxing, guides, cadets, piano lessons, youth choir over the past few years.

She now wants to quit dancing, that she is a grade 4 in, and has been doing since she was 2.
Is this normal to quit everything all at once?

She still does performing arts and that will be it.

Should I persuade her to keep going? Find something new? I dont want her to quit, I've asked her reasons and she says that the other girls (have private lessons aswell) mock her for not being as good as they are.

Its so hard

Please tell me it gets easier

The same is happening in my ds peer group and tbh it was the age I gave up a lot of things personally. However over the years at uni I returned to things like music etc as life long passions. So normal imho but some of those interests you’ve imbedded may turn into life time interests eventually or be something she remembers fondly or funnily.

Can you afford private lessons? Is there another class she can attend to give her more opportunity to practice?

I think it is normal.

Most adults don’t have masses of hobbies. They drop them somewhere along the way, often during the teen or university years, as they gain more independence and other things get in the way.

Also, go back a few years and kids’ spare time was generally not as stuffed with multiple extra curriculars as it is now. It is a modern parenting choice / phenomena and not one which originates in what the children themselves want or need. It is the parents pushing these activities who grieve the most when they are dropped (rather than taking them up themselves!).

I get that, I've not been bothered so much of the others except the dancing and piano. But I won't force her to do something she isn't interested in. Just wondering if it was normal

I can afford them, but she's never been invited (they are part of the dance school she uses) i honestly think she's just fallen out if love with it