DS13 is missing more and more family meals. He doesn't come when he's called, so we've all pretty much eaten by time he comes down. (We start with an Alexa announcement with 5 minutes warning, call up the stairs, then go to his door, call again etc) He gets super annoyed and says "I know!! I'm coming!!" And then doesn't. It's easily 20 minutes before he joins us. Then 50% of the time he'll eat a bite and then say he needs the loo, and disappears for up to 30 minutes again. Then he comes down when we've all cleared up and might eat a bite and then says "I'm full".
I'd be worried about bulimia or something but he eats plenty outside of meals, he makes himself toast, or a toastie or cereal at odd times. He eats lots of crisps.
I've tried saying he can't eat outside of meals but he just ignores me and does it when we're out or in bed. I buy crisps for DD's lunchbox but he eats them all in his room after school and hides the packets in his bed.
Oh and he doesn't eat breakfast. He leaves too late for school and says he doesn't have time. I try giving him toast, fruit or a cereal bar as he heads out which sometimes works but most days I'm on my way to work before he leaves.
At school it's the same story, he buys a snack at break time and then isn't hungry at lunch when he says the queues are too long anyway. Then eats toast or cereal when he gets home and skips dinner.
This means he's essentially missing most fruit and vegetables. He'll eat meat and cheese is we have it.
He's a bright lad and he knows what his body needs! He's a healthy weight, cycles and swims regularly, lives on the pull up bar. He's grown a lot this year so you'd think he'd need more?