Tell me it gets easier?

[Exhaustedmomofteen]

Literally dreading Christmas, endless days of arguments and treading on eggshells.

14 year old DS, who insists he ‘just wants to live his life’ and have us stop being ‘over protective’. By not agreeing to him wandering the streets at 10.30 at night of a town 15 miles away,

Constantly being criticised, told we don’t care about his feelings, and should let him do what he wants now as when he’s older he won’t be able to as he’ll have responsibilities.

every weekend descends into arguments and hostility for daring to say no, earlier in the year it got to the stage where he had a massive screaming fit and had to literally be taken by ambulance and police to be looked over in hospital as he was holding a screwdriver to his neck and to us if we went near him. This is for a kid who has what most would consider a ‘good’ life and wants for nothing (apart from his ‘freedom’ which was too of his Christmas list). No SEN needs.

I get that their brains are still developing but why do teenagers have to be so hard? Hate to say it but roll on 5th Jan when he’s back at school and we get a few hours break from waiting on the next argument.

I’m really sorry you are going through this. I wonder if peer pressure is a big feature here? Who are his mates? and why would they be roaming the streets at night - I’m presuming he wasn’t going to do that on his own? What’s going on in his life outside home is what I’d be thinking. He does seem very intense about it all, he’s struggling with something.

Football ‘mates’. Whose parents let them do what they want, when they want, so he considers them to be ‘normal’.

House parties most weekends, or so they make out, so he feels everyone else is living their best lives while he’s at home on his Xbox and not allowed to roam the streets late at night,

He may not feel you are letting him life his best life but his extreme reaction is unusual. Mine became became like this too around this age, after what I thought was a nice childhood. The behaviour became very extreme and I realised a lot of bad stuff was going on behind the scenes with her new friendship group. Just try and see the reason behind the behaviour- though appreciate this is very difficult to do.

Believe me I feel your pain. Christmas wrecked yesterday by 13 yo obsessed with boy friend and demanding to see him even though she was seeing him today.