Low self worth

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My dd has a friend who has really low self worth. She just wants to be liked by everyone and is especially obsessed with boys liking her. Friend is 14. She talks quite a bit about sex, but my dd says she hasn’t done that, but she does let boys do things. She has a lot of bravado and craves attention, but deep down she has very low self esteem. She is getting support externally and her family are doing the best they can to support her. I was wondering if there was a good book or gift we can get her that would help her see her self worth. Dd would like to give her something for Christmas. Thank you

I don’t have any advice OP, I was much the same as a teen due to a childhood of having to “earn” love, but I just wanted to say how lovely your DD sounds and how lucky this girl is to have her as a friend x

This post is not about my dd. I have a very, very good relationship with my dd. We are an extremely supportive family and my daughter is very open with us and we communicate well and have a lot of love for each other. We would just like to give a little something to her friend who is struggling.

Where have I said I don’t think her parents are not doing a good job 🙄. You seem very triggered. Maybe you have your own insecurities, but no need to project them onto my post.

I’d tread a bit carefully here op. Is it your place to buy your DD’s friend a book about self-esteem? It’s bordering on stepping in to parental territory.

I’d give her something like a daily journal or a basket of lovely shower stuff to boost her up a bit. What does your dd want to buy her?

If you want to do something nice for her, why not a martial arts taster session, or a dance class or horse-riding, or skating lesson, maybe your dd could attend as well, to build up skills that give confidence?

Your DD sounds really kind OP, but I think she needs to tread carefully here. Giving her friend a book about how to improve her self worth may make her feel even worse!

Tell your DD to choose a lovely present and write a card telling her that she's a great friend.