Son is still occasionally wetting the bed

[TheBrightRubyPoet]

I’m after any advice or anyone who’s had similar experiences. My son is 13, he’s a happy kid, we talk, we’re close. Me and his dad split in 2018, wasn’t a bad split and we still get on. Covid hit and that, along with the split, caused M a bit of separation anxiety, which largely showed when having to go to school. He played out with his friends fine, but when it came to school and pick up time, he could really get himself into a panic. I worked with him a lot to manage it, his teachers were great and he really turned a corner with it and has continued to. Bed wetting has been a problem since he was little. But again, we worked through and got to the other side…for the most part! Now, when he has something on his mind, he’ll do it again. Not very often and it can be a variety of things. For example, I’ve just had his whole room redone, lots of building work etc. He’s got a new bed and new mattress and I just knew the first night he would wet the bed, and he did. And has done now 3/3 times he’s been in it. He’s been so excited for his new room and he now is so down and upset with himself he keeps doing it. He never gets told off, he’s always fully supported. Has anyone got any tips or suggestions? Like I say, we’re really close and he talks to me, I try help him understand his feelings but for the most part he’s such a happy go lucky kid, it’s just this is his reaction to either a change or something playing in his mind….🤷🏼‍♀️

He can get medication from the GP.

I wet the bed into my teens (less frequently the older I got) I’m autistic so assume that’s a factor but I have no idea if it related to mh as well . I had sheet with an alarm attached that would wake me if I started to wee so I could get up.

I would ask for a referral to incontinence team, you need to figure out if it’s medical, emotional or both.

Have you ever spoken to the GP? That would be a good first step.

ERIC have a helpline too.

I’ve taken him to the doctors, he’s been checked diabetes, infections and all kinds. It’s definitely emotional. For the most part he doesn’t do it, just when he has something in his mind 😕

My autistic 12 year old still wets the bed and is on Desmopressin - a medication for it.

Your GP can refer you into local services for this - for persistent wetting /continence clinic - so beyond just what the GP would do.

What the clinic will do is make you fill out a timesheet/ very detailed notes of what he drinks and when

So you can do this without waiting - it's time consuming, but the general rule is no full drinks after about 5pm. You are trying to train the bladder/ body to get most fluids earlier in the day.

Then I’d say possibly try the alarm. Or does he need help for his emotional wellbeing?