DS is in year 10. Im not really sure what happens but after being on his phone awhile, he seems to lose interest in doing things and gets very angry/shouty/tearful etc.
He was a happy kid at primary school, popular, quite chatty. Covid was a big thing but Yr 6 as his last year at primary was pretty good overall.
Secondary school he didnt enjoy at all. A small number from primary went to the same school, say 3 but not friends. He spent a year and a half being very miserable. He hated it, detentions were happening several times a week. He then refused to go to school entirely. He saw a counsellor for about 10mths that I paid for to try and help get to the bottom of things, help him find his confidence again and help with the regular anxiety he seemed to be having.
In the meantime we looked at other schools, which he agreed with. He absolutely hated his school and the teachers. He didn't have friends etc etc.
He moved to a new school for Year 9. He was not happy at all. The kids were weird, he didnt like anyone, nobody liked him etc. I told him it was normal to feel this way, he needed to just ne friendly and get on with people he would settle in.
Well now hes in year 10. He seems totally fixated on people at his old school. They meet up sometimes but I feel like he gets upset when he sees them out and about, having a good time at school. So apparently he did have friends despite what he told me.
At his new school he tells me he doesn't like anyone, but his teachers tell me he is popular...hes always talking to people, he has a group he gets on with. He doesn't really make much effort with them outside of school though, just if its an official school trip etc it seems. A bit of chatter on WhatsApp or Snapchat.
Anyway, if you made it here thanks for your patience so far!
He was due to go to football this evening. He is off school for Xmas already. He suddenly just refused to move at all, got very angry and tearful at the same time. Its always the same, I ask what's wrong and I get nothing back. I then worry if hes happy in general. I dont know how to get him to communicate and im at my wits end. In the meantime im paying for all kinds of activities, do everything....
Not really sure what im asking, but if hes not happy at school do I move him again for a 2nd time and in his GCSE years?
I didnt have many friends at school until I was about 16, I just got on with people and made the most of my time. Am I asking too much to expect the same from him?