Hi all,
I’m looking for some perspective on my Year 7 daughter’s friendship group.
She’s got a group of girls she hangs around with, but recently she’s been coming home upset. A few things have happened which she says were “just jokes” according to them, but they’ve really hurt her:
They have linked arms a couple
pf times and physically pushed her out of conversations.
She’s been called “ugly,” “weird,” and “gross” — all said “as banter ,” but obviously not nice to hear and all isolated occasions…
These have been isolated incidents but all within the same group. The girls are quite bolshy, loud, “ladette” types, so I can’t decide whether they’re just trying to be funny and not realising how much they’re hurting her, or whether this is actually intentional unkindness.
My daughter is sensitive and quite gentle, and she’s feeling really upset and affected by it all. I’m trying to work out whether this is normal Year 7 friendship turbulence or whether I should be taking it more seriously or even speaking to the school.
Has anyone been through similar? Is this typical early secondary friendship stuff or does it sound like something I should intervene in? Any advice very welcome.