Steps son had a baby feel for my husband.

[Kmc2303]

So little bit of back story, been with husband 15 years i have a 20 year old he has a 16 year old we have 2 together, life has been tough with hubby's son, hes troubled. But, hubby has done everything to support him funds, picking up from police stations blah blah so hes 16 and recently had a child, hubby met her for the first a few weeks ago his son wasnt there but girlfriend was she was lovely. Offering more pictures asking us to turn up anytime. Then ss messaged to say he was busy for the next few weeks so couldn't see baby or him fine he messaged us on monday needed baby milk. Messaged us yesterday needed food. How can I support my husband with this, I can see hes broken he wants to an active part in his grand daughters life but we're only contacted when he wants something this has always been the case, whilst ss is a parent now himself im upset history is repeating itself for my husband. Any ideas?

He can do that by dealing directly with the baby's mother.

Wow! Lots of lovely judgemental people here no hubby didnt leave him, his sons mother cheated on him, as not all men leave their kids. Also, can't my husband go on and have more kids grow up! Just to be clear ss is 16 our son is 11 he didnt have a child right away!!!!! Is he expected to just not live after the rubbish he was dealt? Honestly! Can I be clear no one is blaming anyone SS smokes weed so worried the money isn't going on food, milk etc he was arrested for drug dealing, and smashing up his mother's home, hes in with a crowd who are exploiting him and unfortunately he likes the lifestyle of " Road man". We just wanted to make sure the child is being supported but SS told us if we dont send him money we can't see his daughter hes young and unfortunately so is his girlfriend her parents are lovely and no the situation.
Whilst we want to be here for his daughter we can't just feed ss habbit his mum doesnt see an issue as her family smoke weed aswell so 🫠 obviously he gets his matience so we know hes getting all he needs and we sent nappies wipes etc etc to girlfriends address.

I think being open and honest and supportive can improve the fathers motive to engage and allow support.