Is a father-son chat a requirement?

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Mums and daughters tend to have various mother-daughter chats e.g about periods, taking care of yourself.

Is a father-son chat also required?
What should it entail?
What age should it happen at?

Or, could/should it be replaced by a mother-son chat even if dad is around?

Or are all the topics covered at school.antway so it's redundant?

Not one chat from one parent but ideally lots of chats from both parents (if around). Talking about things like respect, consent, contraception. It shouldn’t be talking at them but finding out what they feel about these things and what information they have and hopefully keeping communication channel open.

all parents should discuss consent and respect regardless of boy/girl dad/mum. Safety - physical and psychological. Safe sex. Emotional intelligence and being aware of situations where they could feel vulnerable or help others to feel less so.

Yes definitely need to have father-son chats, lots of small chats rather than one big one.
I feel they need to be had before they get an awkward age for both father and son. Probably start when they are 10. Show them what condoms are and how to put a condom on. Consent is another.
It's not just for girls, boys need to be taught about periods too, they will have girlfriends and girls in his class will be having periods.

All of these practicalities are dealt with in sex ed or whatever they call it now.
A father needs to teach his son about respect for women and the best way he can do that is by leading by example in how he treats his wife, the mother of his sons.

Well all I can say is in our household both hubby and I have the chats with both sons and daughters and nothing is to embarrassing to be talked about whenever they want to aswell. The girls love there dad and brothers when it's that time of the month they will give them hot water bottles and hot chocolate and spoil them. Our son's know all what girls go thru what they might go thru contraception safe sex what no means etc..

Is this seriously a question? I divorced my husband coz he was so hands off - I had to teach my boys to shave, plus do the sex Ed and contraception and consent talks etc etc. Husband did nowt and we all resented him. Other stuff ofc contributed to divorce but my 3 teenagers felt wholly unsupported by him

I don’t know if ex has spoken to our sons but I have spoken to them on many occasions over the years. Remember that this generation could be getting this kind of talk from an influencer that we don’t know who could be discussing extreme stuff in the style of Incel or Andrew Tate manosphere ideology.

Encourage their friendships with girls in the same way that you encourage their friendship with boys. No sleepovers but I think that boys who can be friends with girls are more likely to see them as human and treat them better than those who talk to girls to get sex and unlikely to believe in incel type ideology.

I am a chill parent but there’s definitely no homophobic chat here - even the tamer stuff like “That’s so gay” so they know that I have this back if they are gay or bi.

I talk about periods and other girl puberty stuff with them. They’ve seen tampons and sanitary towels in the bathroom and see it as part of being a woman like makeup. Part of seeing women as people but also successfully living with them in future (if they want)

I have spoken about red flags. It’s an extension of being a good friend / expecting good behaviour from a friend chat but important for boys to be aware and not tolerate unacceptable behaviour from someone they date. This can cover online behaviour like sexting as well as the practical like sending a nude of yourself while you’re under 18 is illegal.

I know that ds2 has had advice from ds1 too.

My husband and our son had an open dialogue throughout his childhood and still, AS is 35. This led to our son being a confident male and taking responsibility for his own positive future. This has been extremely beneficial for all of us.

Yes, my husband has had various chats with our teenage son pre-emptively - the way you would tell your daughter about periods before it happens. He’s discussed keeping your bits clean, the dangers of porn, consent etc.

It should all be part of regular talking to your child. Not one ‘big chat’ but lots of ongoing chats about life in general. Just talk about stuff as it comes up in conversation. Talk about stuff you see/hear on the news, what you see on social media, what friends have done that wasn’t so great…