I'm so upset. We've had such a hard time with ds1 since he was about 15, he became heavily addicted to weed, did badly in a levels after doing amazing in GCSEs, spent about a year in his room getting high and hardly seeing anyone etc. We've had periods where we were genuinely scared about his mental health (paranoid). After getting nowhere trying to get him to quit weed, we suggested a job where you have to be drug tested and he did it! He hasn't smoked since last December. However, he quit the job after 2 months because he hated it. Since then, he is struggling to find work. He has improved but is still difficult to live with in ways. Won't cook, barely helps around the house. We try but honestly he is so unbelievably argumentative and selfish.
Please go easy on me, I regularly feel at breaking point with him so really need kind words. I'd like opinions on if we're being unreasonable at all. Me and dh work Monday -friday. Ds1 is intolerant of noise when he's sleeping. At the weekend, he expects us to stay quiet until he wakes up (after 12pm) which means no house work and generally creeping around. We told him that 12pm is the limit as it's not fair on us. He thinks this is unreasonable and we should just wait until he wakes up. This can cause major arguments as when we start making noise after 12, he kicks off. I feel like I'm being held hostage in my own house and want him to move out.