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Smithy86 · 04/11/2025 22:53

My 17 year old daughter lives with her grandma and dad. The grandma gets all her benefits etc. They only get her the basics like hygiene etc when i say anything yhey say she gets what she wants im controling her money when its me who gives her it but child says they always tell her to ask me now as her mother i will go without to get the things shes needs. She is in college doing a course she doesnt want to do. She has got herself a job so she can buy herself stuff that they dont get her. Now what im worried about is that her dad and grandma will take her wages when she gets paid and she'll be left with nothing. What can I do to make sure they dont take it . I have told her she will have to give grandma some money as she won't learn when she's older. Her dad is a alcoholic and always "asks her for money"
Any advice will be excellent please.

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lovemyboyz247 · 05/11/2025 03:07

She should not be giving them her full wages. Her wages should be paid to her account and then if she wants to contribute some money to food/rent then she can decide the amount.

Is there an option for her to come and live with you? If she can’t move out to live with you, does she have other relatives who would allow her to move in with them?

if they are trying to financially control her she should lie about how much she is being paid. If they know how much she’s being paid or have access to her account, I would suggest she opens a new account (without their knowledge) and has her wages paid into that account and starts saving.

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