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Feeling sad and unappreciated

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thisgal · 20/10/2025 23:26

Not sure if it’s me or if I’m right to be upset
18 year old daughter is mostly great . Wr have good relationship and apart from the odd mood we do get on great
As she’s just turned 18 we have done fun things , party for 40 friends , hotel break , and a bottomless brunch with my best friend and her daughter who is one of my Dd best friends . All in discussion mostly suggested by her .
Today she passed her driving test , the same day as bottomless brunch happening later . So proud of her . Made a big fuss , paid for her go get nails done before we go on family holiday .
At the bottomless brunch she appeared distracted, looking at phone and not her usual self . My friend noticed and asked me if she was ok . I said she was probably tired after her driving test . She said she was v tired and we left early despite her friend saying she was happy to stay out .
On the way home she said could I drop her at boyfriends , it seems she wasn’t that tired just wanted to stay over at his house .
I felt annoyed and a bit put out that I’d gone to a lot of effort and cost only for her to be texting her boyfriend while we were out planning to leave and go to his .
How would you handle this ?
I feel bad for my friend and her daughter too .

OP posts:
Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 20/10/2025 23:28

She’s 18, let her live her life. She’s spent all day with you. Perhaps you should have had some consideration that she would want to spend time with the Boyf.

thisgal · 20/10/2025 23:34

I’m happy for her to have a boyfriend , we arnt joined at the hip .this is more to her making plans then dumping when something else comes along .

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Octavia64 · 20/10/2025 23:43

Heck when mine turned 18 they made clear parents were not wanted at the party!

thisgal · 20/10/2025 23:47

She had a party with just friends for her actual birthday 3 weeks ago , this was arranged by her because they are childhood friends but not in same friends group . It was her idea . I just went along and paid but she made no effort and was actually quite rude , yawning etc

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Soonenough · 20/10/2025 23:50

Overthinking it OP. You are so lucky that she does spend so much time with you. But it's OK to make other plans too . She also wants to include her boyfriend in her day to celebrate her passing her test .

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