Soon to be 14 year old daughter

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Hi all I'm new here

Since July of last year we have had a court order in place for my daughter to visit her dad, since then her mental health has been really bad, includes SH and attempted S.

Back in August this year she attempted again whilst under her dad's care, due to the way to treats her and she's doesn't want to see him again, we have told him that she doesn't want to see him and that she would message when she's ready but she constantly gets messages from him.

She's on the pathway for autism but her dad isn't the nicest person, we've had dealings with the police and all sorts about him and his bad ways.

Her 14th birthday is coming up and she just wants to hang out with friends etc and doesn't want to see her dad at all. As every time she sees him her mental health strikes again, will I get in trouble with court if she stops seeing him? He always threatens her with the police as he doesn't have contact with me due to a DV relationship.

I'm not 100% sure, I'm also in a similar position but I think the court would consider the child's wishes, as they are old enough to make that decision.

Last time we went to court she was 12 and even then they didn't take her wishes into consideration, her dad thinks it's me stopping contact but it's not, he is mentally abusing her and he can't see it

I’m not sure if tou will get in trouble. I doubt it though. At 14 her wishes should be taken into consideration and she is perfectly entitled to block her “D”F so that he can’t send her messages.

You might find if you speak to Rights of Women they will be able to tell you what’s likely to happen if he takes it back to Court.

I would also suggest sitting with your DD and going through her apps with her to make sure she doesn’t have her location showing on things like Snapchat or WhatsApp and turning off the ticks on messages so that he can’t see if she’s received or read a message.

And how about a new phone with a different phone number for her birthday?