Hi there , I’m wondering if anyone could please offer me some advice regarding my daughter .
She is going to be 18 in a few days and she’s putting a lot of pressure on me. Not just that busy the way she talks to me is shocking . Tonight for example she’s told me to ‘shush’ several times. I was in the kitchen washing up and had my earphones in listening to music and she was in the living room and she rang me to told me to shut up because I was quietly singing .
She puts me down by telling me to get a job and says things like ‘when I have kids I’m going to make sure I’m not poor’.
She tells me I’m sensitive , emotional and says I’m needy .
She tries to boss me around and sometimes wakes me up early in the morning asking where an item of clothing is or something else . She doesn’t have any consideration for me .
She’s not happy with the budget I have for her 18th which I admit is not a lot and she said that I knew when she was going to be 18 and I should have saved but circumstances happened that I wasn’t able to .
She never cleans up after herself , her bedroom is a mess , she throws dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in the wash basket . Several times I’ve found tampons wrapped in tissue on the bathroom cabinet that she hasn’t put in the bin.
Sometimes she goes out at 9/10pm at night and most nights I can hear her on her phone at home midnight . If she has a bath very late say 10pm she’ll put her music on loud on speaker and I have to tell her to turn it down so she doesn’t upset the neighbours .
Don’t get me wrong she can sometimes be lovely but lately the way she treats me and speaks to me is really getting me down .
I really am trying my best and go without myself so she can have nice things but it’s never enough.
I know she’s going through a lot but so am I.
Tonight I lost my temper which I very rarely too and told her she needs to start treating me with respect. She then said I was being a nasty bitch and kept saying ‘whatever’ or yawning .
If anyone can offer any advice it would be much appreciated.
Thank you