Dd 14 pissed

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Dd has been out for the afternoon with two of her mates. She is in Y10 and 15 next month.We were out with our two younger kids and when we got back dd was asleep which is unusual but not unheard of.
Dh woke her up and asked if she would like some food and spotted she wasn’t right. I went in and spoke to her and it was obvious she had been drinking. She slurry and doing that thing where you speak very slowly and deliberately.
Ive called her out on it and she’s admitted she and her two mates have shared some vodka.
She doesn’t feel sick, I’ve given her some water and waiting for a pizza to be delivered.

How should I deal with this? Part of me wants to come down like a ton of bricks and ground her forever more. Dh thinks it was going to happen it’s just a bit sooner than we would have liked.

Im obviously going to speak to her about safety and not getting in this state. This just feels like it’s happening too soon. On a positive at least she admitted it I suppose.

Let her drink water and eat pizza and sleep it off. In the morning explain the dangers. There isn't a great deal you can do other than give her the information and hope she is sensible in the future.

PP says virtually all there is to be said but when you talk to her I'd say something about laying off spirits. If she is going to drink she can pace herself more easily with weaker drinks like cider, lager and wine. Not that I'm encouraging her but it is likely to happen again and she definitely shouldn't be drinking spirits.

Thank you both think you are right. She’s a lot better now after food and water. Yes I’m definitely going to go down the road of a sensible approach to drinking rather than the unrealistic expectation that she won’t do it again.

14-16 is a typical age for kids to start experimenting with alcohol. So what's happened is not uncommon.

You are lucky that she decided to come home and made it safely into bed. She obviously had some sense to be safe even though she was drinking.

I would talk to her in a relaxed manner in a couple of days. Ask her about what happened, was it planned, has it happened before, where did the alcohol come from, who's idea was it, how she got home.

I would then think of steps I could make to minimise the chances of it reoccurring.

No point blowing a fuse. Go with the concern and disappointment approach

Make sure that she understands about the different alcohol content of different drinks, and how vulnerable she is when she’s been drinking (not just when she’s drunk).

Currently in almost same.situation, although had to carry DD home from friends - others all seem fine she is absolutely paralytic 😮

Now facing evening/ night of watching her sleep to make sure she is ok.

Thanks for responding it’s nice to have some solidarity and makes me feel better to know this is pretty standard. She number 4 of 6 six kids but the others didn’t start drinking til 16 ish (that I knew about anyway!)

@BrighterLatersorry you are in a similar situation I hope dd is ok and you manage to get some sleep.