Hi all, I'm probably going to get some hate for this post but I really can't stand my daughter.
She is 12 going on 17, talks to me and her dad like s#£t, is rude, disrespectful, lies, argues about everything and seems to get joy out of winding everyone up, even our cats.
Her dad and I split when she was 3 and we share custody of her and her brother who is 16.
He also hates to be around her and will stay in his room for peace whenever she is home.
She has never really had much discipline from her dad, I think he felt guilty for the situation, so struggled to tell her off. She has grown up thinking she can shout and scream and get her own way, as has learnt as a toddler. So much so that when she is with her dad she now openly calls him a fu£&ing c£%t to his face.
I have always been the bad cop parent and have told her off/called out her bad behaviour and have stuck to my guns to try and show her she can't have her own way all the time and shouting/screaming won't change my mind.
Her behaviour does seem to be more confined to home as she isn't like this at school or with people she isn't familiar with.
She is actually quite academic, enjoys most sports and is very musical/creative too.
She started puberty quite young, approx 9yo and started her period just before her 11th birthday.
I do think her hormones probably have a big part to play in all of this, but I am at the point now where I just want an escape from her.
I lost my own mum when I was 11 and remember playing her up as a child and it feels like history is repeating itself. I would do anything to have my mum back and have felt a lot of guilt growing up for how I behaved when I was younger. I would love nothing more then to have a happy loving relationship with my own daughter but it just feels completely out of reach atm.