Last year my daughter was 16 and had her first boyfriend. We agreed a rule with her that they would leave her bedroom door open when they were in her room. She was happy with it. When we've talked about sex and relationships we've acknowledged that some teens will experiment early but discussed the benefits of being a bit older and encouraged her to wait until she is more mature.
She's now 17 and has a different boyfriend of maybe a couple of months only. He was here this evening and we realised her door was closed. I feel like the age difference from last year is significant and while I'd rather she wasn't doing anything sexual yet (in a new relationship) I also am aware of the argument that it's better they are safe inside than looking for less safe places elsewhere.
She is my oldest so this is new to me and her Dad. What have others done at this age, in terms of boundaries, and what has then been your experience?
Thanks for any thoughts.