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Walking through house wet after a shower

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Dizzyhairdresser · 08/09/2025 08:41

Hi I’m at my wits end ,I’m a solo parent , 3 children still in house despite my son being 19 , everytime he showers he comes out shower and doesn’t dry himself and walks on my carpets water dripping of him , and he’s hairy like a gorilla, wet feet wet body and a towel wrapped around his waist , my new carpets are getting ruined my bottom stair carpet is now soggy !! , only replaced 4 months ago as last carpets got ruined same way , I have a dehumidifier on 24/7
he goes up to his room soaking and leaves soaking wet towels on bedroom floor , this is causing animosity as he’s very aggressive and is always right , I’ve asked for years for him to dry in shower room but he won’t , he showers at least 3 times a day , please help xx

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MiddleAgedDread · 08/09/2025 08:46

Why on earth is he showering 3 times a day?? bill him for the carpet if he refuses to get dry in the bathroom.

ComfortFoodCafe · 08/09/2025 08:47

Why is he showering 3 times a day?! I would turn the hot water off and tell him until he pays towards the water & gas bill hes to have one a day & he gets dry in the bloody bathroom!
At 19 he knows better hes just being lazy.

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 08/09/2025 08:52

Three times a day is excessive and you’re paying the water bill, right?

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 08/09/2025 08:53

He’s very aggressive. This is awful. My ds is the same. Does he work? Any prospect of him leaving home?

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Dizzyhairdresser · 09/09/2025 04:30

He does work and has a good job , he does pay keep each month only a token payment , but I find it hard the devastation he leaves Behind , I work a lot of hours to support us and I’m fed up my house being trashed all the time , I’m meant to shut up and just accept it
I’m fed up asking same thing every day , he’s a nice boy but these things are driving me crazy as soggy carpets are horrible

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Cyclistmumgrandma · 09/09/2025 07:17

Aggressive and ignoring your requests does not equal “a nice boy”.

BreakingBroken · 09/09/2025 19:24

so if he's working where does he find the time to shower three times daily?
most teens masturbate in the shower, which is only marginally better than in socks or in the bed...
the moisture dripping off him shouldn't be so excessive, if you are not exaggerating; wet landings wet stairs etc i suggest you have poor air circulation and other home maintenance issues.

tripleginandtonic · 09/09/2025 19:25

I don't get the problem , wrap a towel round and dry off in bedroom is what we've always done. No carpets have been ruined.

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Dizzyhairdresser · 10/09/2025 04:52

he is obsessed with cleanliness always has been since avery small boy , and I’m not exaggerating I have a dehumidifier a large one at that on in my hall 24/7 , he is very sporty and works 745-415 has a shower to go to work , and comes home showers to go to football martial arts or gym and then showers when he comes home , he’s a lovely boy but this is causing stress as straight out shower along tiles downstairs hall and onto the carpet , , xx

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Dizzyhairdresser · 10/09/2025 04:54

Also windows are open all times , my house is very clean and well maintained, sadly I’m a bit of a tidy cleanliness freak but it’s still a home and I’m Menapausal which doesn’t help x

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hhtddbkoygv · 10/09/2025 04:55

I do this and always have done. Floorboards save my life.

Not sure what to suggest but it's sensory for me.

Mintyt · 10/09/2025 05:15

Show him this thread. Tell him he’s upsetting you. I also wonder if it’s really this bad, if he’s a lovely boy he will listen and take on board what you say. Put a bath mat on the bottom stair too

24Dogcuddler · 10/09/2025 05:21

Super absorbent mat just outside the bathroom and flip flops. Absorbent cotton towelling dressing gown ( he could buy these and wash them) Can’t he shower at the gym?

BreakingBroken · 10/09/2025 05:29

Cost and floor saving wise, could he shower at his clubs or workplace?

Shinysunday · 10/09/2025 05:42

OP have you explained to him why people can’t walk through the house soaking wet and shown him the damage?
Have you tried repeatedly standing outside the bathroom at the end of his shower and asking to go back and dry himself?
Have you told him he needs to move out if he insists on unnecessarily damaging your home?

tinofthetop · 11/09/2025 17:18

Your house, your rules, if he doesn't like then he can live somewhere else. Pop your postcode into Spareroom.co.uk and see how much it costs to rent a room in a house local to you. Feel free to print out the list of properties for him or you can send him the link. Remind him this is your house and you are not prepared to live like this and as you are the owner of the property it will be him moving out.

He will need to remember that he will then be responsible for all his food shopping, meal planning and cooking, laundry and whatever else you may provide for him either fully or partially.

Do not put up with this shit. Mine are 22 and 19, share a bathroom, have colour coded towels and have been hanging their towels back onto the radiator post shower since they were in primary school.

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