Summer holidays and teens

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My DS is 13. We spent the first 3 weeks of the holidays in France, however since we have been back he's done nothing.
I obviously used a lot of leave so im back at work and DS is at home. I work from home around half the time. The first week back I let him pretty much do what he wanted which was to play on his PC and go bed late and have lie ins.
Now im finding it impossible to get him up! It's 1.30pm now and he is still asleep. Multiple alarms set, Alexa going off, phone calls and texts (I'm at work) and nothing wakes him! I just feel like he's wasting the rest of the summer holidays in bed but there's nothing I can physically do when im not there. Is this something I should let go or any advice?

Why are you so desperate to get him out of bed? It’s not the end of the world if teens want to sleep in during the summer, especially if you’re not home and therefore he likely won’t have any big plans most days. Give him a break, OP.

I dont know to be honest that's why I posted. I see it as just completely wasting the days away. But your right, he doesn't have any plans. It would be nice if he could at least get up and dressed by lunchtime, and maybe go and sit downstairs with the dog though!

It would annoy me to be honest firstly cause it messes his sleep up and secondly cause it d make my DS very lazy

all that works for my DS is rewards (electronics etc) if he does something worthwhile (does research on a topic, prep for drama etc)

Can you just have an agreement he has to most days go out with friends ? That is how I try with my 13 year old.

The sleeping is tricky as I think its their teen body clock.

I dont allow unlimited gaming or too late at night but my son still would sleep all morning. I dont mind as long as he makes plans where possible. I agree its such a hadd age with all the tech making it easy for them to slump indoors.

Are you me? Same age, same situation. Don’t mind him sleeping in (the record is 3.30pm!!!) but that I can’t get him out of the house. Friends away, or also at home gaming, so he usually boomerangs right back when I make him saying there’s no one to hang out with. Seems to be fairly normal but like you I feel he’s wasting his time just sleeping, eating and gaming for weeks! Used to be ultra sporty and always active but just can’t seem to be bothered with anything this year

In the holidays Dts can get up when they want, it’s their holiday. The phones go on my room at 2300.

I’ve stopped fighting it. He has to keep his room tidy, emerge for meals, get outdoors for a few minutes every day, come out occasionally for a walk or a drive and a chat with me. In return, I take an interest in his games, listen to podcasts he recommends and we watch some shows and you tube together. He’s building some amazing stuff in Minecraft with his friends, deep diving into a couple of games, and I get some much needed alone time while he’s catching up on sleep.

it’s not what I’d choose for him, but I’d rather we connect and enjoy the summer, than fight what I think is probably a losing battle.

This is my exact situation! I always get told the same. 'No ones out' have you tried asking them? Why dont you go swimming or to town? 'No one does that anymore' answer for everything 😂