Just seeking some positive stories tbh as although I try to reassure myself it doesn’t really work & I don’t feel reassured! Maybe the words of strangers will help…?!
my 17 yo DD had a 2 year on/off abusive relationship that has really impacted on her. She acts in risky ways (drinking, sex) at times. She has historically self harmed but hasn’t done it for a few months now.
She has had a counsellor for 2 years now, I don’t know what they discuss but I think DD discloses some information to her. The counsellor has only once raised a safeguarding concern though.
on paper things look like they are improving - been seeing friends (unheard of previously), did really well in Y12 exams & working hard at job. And some of the risky behaviour is normal teenage stuff anyway - drinking too much at parties, vaping etc. The risky sexual behaviour feels more of an outlier to me though and is what I am worrying about more I think.
DD does not confide in me at all really but does talk to friends (& presumably the counsellor), my hostility towards her ex during her relationship with him did a lot of damage to our relationship (although she told her sister that we were right all along she hasn’t said anything to us like that!).
Just want to have faith that it will turn out okay in the end.