Sex concerns with my 13 year old Step son

[SuperWalkingFace]

Very concerned about some messages I’ve seen between my 13 year old Step son and his gf. Looks like he is planning to have sex with his on/off again gf (also 13) just relying on either her being on the pill or the morning after pill (couldn’t quite make it out).

I feel that 13 is way too young to be having conversations about this but she is just trouble and I have zero faith she is being truthful about the pill and ideally wants to trap him so she’ll be continued to be looked after as she’s in full time care at the minute.

Also worried about where this will happen as they have never been indoors together outside of school as far as I’m aware.

is it too young to provide condoms, how do we basically stop this becoming a teenage pregnancy? Thanks from a very worried step dad.

Very frank conversations are the way forward. Whatever you say about sex, he already knows, so ditch the embarrassment and dive in. Mano to sudo-mano. Express your ethos on the matter. Obviously sex at 13 is a terrible idea, but if they want to, they'll find a way. I 'm sure you're aware that honey teenagers don't require a warm soft bed or a roof.

The phrase "the pill won't stop your d* from dropping off" might be a bit useful. Definitely put condoms in the bathroom cabinet. Definitely explain how to use them. Tell him belt and braces is best in terms of her also being on contraception.

I would also be worried if gf is under age, if u don’t trust her, what else might she claim.

Great advice, @HollyBookBlue thank you so much! I think you’re right and needs to happen.

Thanks for the concerns @TheMerryWidow1 she is definitely in his year so I know for sure she’s also 13.

Just coming back to add that you need to be talking about consent and him protecting himself from teenage drama/gossip/false allegations. He both needs to understand his responsibility to behave well and be aware that other people, including girls, may not.

Also conversations about sending, taking and sharing nudes. They're children. That's illegal