First house party - curfew time

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My just turned 15 year old DD is attending a local house party. What is a reasonable time to tell her to be home? It starts at 8. What curfew time would you set?

12pm would be fine..

11pm would be okay but if it was 11 and I was going I'd feel I'd count down the hours

Midnight. She's Cinderella 😁

Although, if it finishes at 1am she's going to feel pissed off at leaving earlier than everyone else, which is what my parents always did to me. Can you see if there is an official 'finish' time?

Just turned 15 ? So end of year 10 ? As late as I could bear to pick up I'd try for 11pm but be prepared to be pushed to midnight. Depending on how far away and whether I was working the next day.

What time does it finish? My DD has also just finished Yr10 & most of the ones she has been to finish at 11.00. They always overrun by a few minutes but she’s usually out at the car by 11.15.

How is she getting home?
If she's walking 8pm curfew!
If you or a friend's parent are collecting then 1am would be as late as I could stand leaving the house for

They’ll be getting a bus. We are a car free household. Thanks for the replies.

You and DH can't drive?

If she's making her own way home on the bus then I'll stick with 8pm

If you're going on the bus to collect her and bring her home using the bus, then whatever time the buses stop running

Is it um “safe” to travel home by bus from the party? Round our way I wouldn’t want a couple if 15 year olds (probably wearing very little and potentially having had a sneaky drink) travelling home from a house party alone at night.

Is there an option for them to get home any other way? They won’t want to leave early but if no other option they will have to.

I wouldn’t rely on the last bus home, maybe the one before that. How many are travelling home together, might be better to arrange a taxi to drop them off or can another parent pick them up.

The party doesn’t start till 8, so I don’t think that will work!

8 is not a appropriate ‘curfew’ time for a 16 year old anyway. They should be confident about getting themselves home on public transport at that age, especially if they’ve been brought up in a no car household.

The OP's child has just turned 15. I have a 14 year old DD who is confident traveling on buses. But for her safety, I wouldn't let her travel in the evenings alone. Around 8pm is my cutoff for her getting home under her own steam

'Curfews' are very reductionist. I don't mind my DD staying out till the wee hours so long as she is somewhere safe and there's a plan for her to come home safely - either being collected by me, DH or her friend's parent.

It's not about a bedtime, it's about safety

When is the last bus home, I would then be getting her to get the one before which gives a bit of leeway incase. I would certainly have a plan b for a taxi home as I would not be that happy with a 15 getting a bus home at midnight especially if they have had a drink. She needs to ensure that she travels with others. Definitely wait up for her.

Yes 2nd to last bus and I would be waiting at the bus stop ( text as she gets on bus, then meet her off it). I wouldn't want my 15yo walking home from the bus stop alone after dark ( about 8:30 round here atm)