My DS age 14 hates his elder brother age 17. DS age 17 has quite severe ASD. He has problems with hoarding and frequent meltdowns.
I understand the frustration of my younger two DS, competing for my time and attention, as well as seeing the impact that caring for their older brother has on me.
at the same time, I worry about the level of hatred that DS14 shows towards his older brother. He has no empathy towards him whatsoever and constantly says really nasty things right in front of him.
Meanwhile DS17 shows a lot of thought for his brothers, constantly thinking about what they would like. He knows he has issues and faces so much criticism in his life already.
I love them all so much, so it breaks my heart to see this dynamic. I’ve always explained DS17’s issues to my other DS’s and my youngest who is 12 understands.
DS 14 has always been the most gentle and easy going of children too. People said that it’s often the gentle ones who become the biggest challenge as teenagers.
does anyone have any advice or know if this is just a phase? I remember fighting like crazy with my sister as teens but now we are best friends.