How do i make 17 year old girl grow up a bit?

[ymemanresu]

Grrr, she holds down 2 part time jobs ( on time etc) and goes to college but is irresponsible like continuously losing her house key, not locking doors, left the gas on once ffs. Going through an ignoring every nag stage. Room is disgusting but will clean if a friend is over. Wont wash up, puts 1 item in the washing machine, things like this… There’s no way i can get her phone off her. Any ideas?

Natural consequences.

If she doesn’t lock the door after herself she’ll have to start leaving the house with you. You’re out the house at 7am for work, she‘ll have to leave with you. Loosing her key, she has to go to Timpson’s to buy a new key/pay to get a new lock.
Work out how much it costs to put the machine on and charge her to wash the one item.
leaving the gas on? Bar her from using the oven.

key safe on the outside of the house with spare key in it.

if she’s doing her own washing I’d consider that not your problem - she’ll learn.

teenage rooms being disgusting is normal but if actually mouldy or maggots I’d clean it with her.

My eldest son was exactly the same. I reckon there are 20 of my front door keys floating around this town.

I also came downstairs one morning to the gas hob on and the wooden bread board sitting directly on top of it! Couple of times, I came down in the morning to the front door wide open where his friends has left in the early hours.

I bought him an Air Tag for his keys. The rest, I just gave up, really. He moved out just over a year ago and it much more organised now! When he last stayed with me, he slept on the sofas (he like it there). I came downstairs to a very tidy living room. He has lost his keys once in the last 18 months but retrieved them, thanks to the Air Tag! I think he is more careful with them now as they bunch includes his car key.

I felt like I was being driven mad by it at the time! My youngest son is not like this at all, he is very organised.

I feel your pain... and am sorry that I can only empathise!

Edited to say: as for his bedroom, I stopped going in there. Redecorated it when he left home.