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Advice Please feeling alone and helpless

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Sealove · 01/07/2025 08:03

I have never posted before so apologies if I do something not right...
I have a 16 year old son...his behavior and attitude has gone from bad to worse... possible add and odd... utterly addicted to phone, the last 2 weeks have been the most hardest but months now things have been very very stressful... hes done some terrible things, refuses to help now in past few days and has broken me..I feel completely broken and not in control...I feel he has worn me down and shows nothing but contempt for me and just sits on his phone ignoring me, acts as though he hates me, barely speaks to me.. we were very close before...
His father works away for long periods we have no family and very little support, I don't have any friends with a child like mine so no one understands what I am going through, I feel utterly alone, and have no idea what to do anymore...he has refused to go to school at times and I feel things are only going to get worse. Trying to get him help but know this will only work if he participates which I don't believe he will. He was never this cruel or refused to do as told. I feel my life is on total hold and do not want to see anyone.. I am speaking to a psychologist in ways to deal with him but nothing is working anymore, I'm giving in to his demands which I never did before as fear he will leave.

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Firstsipofcoffee · 01/07/2025 08:51

Has he just done his GCSEs?

What “terrible things” has he done?

Firstsipofcoffee · 01/07/2025 08:52

I'm giving in to his demands which I never did before as fear he will leave.

and go where?

OP he’s utterly financially dependent on your presumably.

Is he at school? College?

inkblink · 01/07/2025 08:58

Hi OP
I just wanted to say you're not alone. I had a terrible time with my daughter and felt very alone, because very few people in real life really talk about this, but there are lots and lots of people going through similar - probably among your friends! My dd is coming out of it now, at 17, and she's becoming quite loving again, but. for the last 3 years she's despised me. I'm afraid I haven't got any good advice, as I think time is the only thing that has really helped.

Sealove · 01/07/2025 09:08

inkblink · 01/07/2025 08:58

Hi OP
I just wanted to say you're not alone. I had a terrible time with my daughter and felt very alone, because very few people in real life really talk about this, but there are lots and lots of people going through similar - probably among your friends! My dd is coming out of it now, at 17, and she's becoming quite loving again, but. for the last 3 years she's despised me. I'm afraid I haven't got any good advice, as I think time is the only thing that has really helped.

Hello
I'm not sure if this is the way to reply to replies to my post add I've never done this before... thankyou I try telling myself I am not the only one bit it certainly feels I am I just feel very isolated ... the phone seems to be such a big problem who he chats to and negative influences.. feel I'm really losing him..

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Firstsipofcoffee · 01/07/2025 09:10

Anyone who repeatedly says that they have never posted on mumsnet before invariably has… a lot!

anyway op, without knowing what “terrible things” he has done it is difficult to advise

Sealove · 01/07/2025 10:52

Firstsipofcoffee · 01/07/2025 09:10

Anyone who repeatedly says that they have never posted on mumsnet before invariably has… a lot!

anyway op, without knowing what “terrible things” he has done it is difficult to advise

I've never posted before why would I pretend? I did not even know this was a uk site I'm not in the UK, how was your post helpful for someone feeling utterly alone and helpless? Thank goodness for the other kinder reply I had.

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