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Starynightskyblackforest · 2025-06-29T06:23:30+00:00

I am checking my teen mobile to ensure she is safe as she felt a bit low a couple of times, said she wanted to die and scratch herself a bit . I don’t think she is depressed but when she gets low, she gets quite emotional, she is a sensitive person. She is 14. She has different playlists on her mobile/spotify but I found these songs: The album is called Yo; Bibble The Summoner Freaks I hate everything about you Bring me to life Romantic homicide Bleed it out How to never stop being sad Grenade Nothing matters End of beginning Skinny Dirty Diana Just want to ensure she is not listening to depressing songs. Any advice? I can see these albums: Yo: Bubble the Summoner Bllie Eilish Supper Grass Hole Fancy that Till I see the starts Pink Pantheress Bad Bunny

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Starynightskyblackforest · 29/06/2025 07:32

How else do I check her mobile? Apart from whats app? Snapchat disappear when she read it. How do I check google and YouTube?

Should I allow her ticktock and robblox?

in other words how do I keep her safe?

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beansontoast85 · 29/06/2025 08:34

14 is a really tricky age OP. You need to be checking her search engine history and from personal experience check her notes app or any writing apps on her phone or any notebooks/diaries/letters in her room. My daughter was very good at writing down her feelings which we now know was actually a good thing as it meant she was getting them out, even if it was hard to read. My DD listened to similar music to yours and also started reading pretty intense books like The Bell Jar and Virgin Suicides. I would maybe ask her if she would be willing to talk to someone about her feelings or if you have anyone in your family who you trust and that you think she would confide in that can spend time with her. I found that once I started spending more one on one time with my DD (although this was not always easy as she was pulling away from me big time) she started opening up to me and I felt like I really got to know her on a much deeper level. It took a lot of work though on both sides and the past two years have been extremely difficult for us. We are now approaching her 16th birthday and thankfully things are so much better.

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Starynightskyblackforest · 29/06/2025 08:43

beansontoast85 · 29/06/2025 08:34

14 is a really tricky age OP. You need to be checking her search engine history and from personal experience check her notes app or any writing apps on her phone or any notebooks/diaries/letters in her room. My daughter was very good at writing down her feelings which we now know was actually a good thing as it meant she was getting them out, even if it was hard to read. My DD listened to similar music to yours and also started reading pretty intense books like The Bell Jar and Virgin Suicides. I would maybe ask her if she would be willing to talk to someone about her feelings or if you have anyone in your family who you trust and that you think she would confide in that can spend time with her. I found that once I started spending more one on one time with my DD (although this was not always easy as she was pulling away from me big time) she started opening up to me and I felt like I really got to know her on a much deeper level. It took a lot of work though on both sides and the past two years have been extremely difficult for us. We are now approaching her 16th birthday and thankfully things are so much better.

Thank you very much. That is very helpful.

When we started to notice this behaviour; We have started to spend more time with her and she seems to have calmed down. I need to keep an eye.

Glad things are much better with your daughter.

I want to be there for her, talk to her, spend time with her but also give her some freedom and try not to worry all the time.

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beansontoast85 · 12/08/2025 20:36

Just wondering how your daughter is doing OP? Hope things have improved for you both.