Someone please help me with this. My nearly 19 year old only daughter just finished LC and had been on and off about the LC holiday. I was never keen on it but when it was decided last minute that herself and a friend wanted to go, i conceded and invited them to tag along with myself and DH. We had flights to alicante booked ages but no accommodation so suggested we go to Benidorm (definitely not my scene) and she didn't like the idea at first as it was kinda with 'her parents' but her friend (and mom) were happy with it so i got them flights & their own hotel room and she begged that they be allowed do their own thing. I agreed because i was happy just being there should things go t*ts up. Her friend is only 17 so her mum was very happy with the arrangement. So here's the thing. I only saw them for 2 min, 3 times in 4 days..... There were three 5am finishes. I get it we all did it. I was ok with one blow out night maybe 2. Her friend has limited energy and her health hadn't been great and wouldnt be a party animal as such. I wanted to avoid a big argument but what really bothers me is ZERO effort was made to meet us for a catch up, meal or even a drink, not once. She wouldn't even sit with us for brekkie the 1 morning they made it down. Anytime i tried to ring or seek them out for a catch up, and trust me i did NOT pester her, I maybe rang once during the day, she actively avoided me. I saw her when they checked in for about 2 min coz there was a mixup at reception where she was just annoyed by us. Twice at the pool, and at airport pick up each time irritated and took off. Only for life 360 id be utterly in the dark. Im not thick and i know what they were there for but this is all sponsored by me. Im blown away by the selfishness...a little effort to meet wouldn't have killed her given it was an expensive experience. Spending sponsored by us too. She and I clash a lot and have not been getting along in a while for similar reasons, her lack of consideration mostly, were going through a lot with personal stuff, ageing parents, work, and of course LC. A lot of shit has come at us all at once, and we're jaded. But It all seems to go over her head and i really thought we might get a quick chance to have a bit of fun for once outside the home but she is ALLERGIC to us. As an only child shes had a great childhood, give every opportunity available, we support her in every way possible but its just never enough. She also lacks ambition and motivation has self esteem issues and been to counselling at 3 different stages thru the teens. She did something similar 2 years ago when we brought another friend along on hols without the partying of course and we had war afterwards regarding her attitude, she was awful. I thought shed have outgrown that shit by now. PLEASE SOMEONE ENLIGHTEN ME.