Hello all,
I am a single parent to 3 daughters. 21, 18 and 10. The youngest has ASD and is developmentally delayed.
5 yrs ago I divorced their dad. It was a very acrimonious divorce. My eldest blamed me for leaving their dad and although lives with me would rather be with her dad.
My Middle daughter was a fantastic support during the divorce and at one point didn't see her dad for a year. He always favouritised the eldest and showered her with gifts and money.
In the last few months the middle daughter 18 has met a boyfriend. He is not a great match for her but she is in love. Everything was going ok she had a great job and we were all ok.
Then the older two daughters started to gang up on me and literally bully me. They both refused to pay housekeeping. Swearing at me and their bedrooms were trashed. The 18 yr old would start bringing her boyfriend in late at night and would stay sleeping in the lounge with her for days. I became annoyed because he doesn't work and would be here on my day off when my daughter was at work. I work two jobs and sometime I just need a little time on my own.
I then found used pregnancy tests and asked her to go on a form of contraception.
the result was that I was called 'controlling and manipulative' (their dads favourite words for me.
middle daughter said she had waited for years to tell me how she felt about me.
She left and has now been staying at her boyfriends families home for 8 weeks, she's lost her job and isn't working.
I message her every couple of days to tell her that I love her and that she always has a room here but she has only replied twice in that time just saying she is very happy.
Her younger sister and I are so upset and miss her.
My eldest seems to be enjoying the rift between my 18yr old and myself.
I am broken and I just don't know what to do.
has anyone else experienced this?