Almost 16yo girl & contraception??

[Thenoseymother]

Hi all,

so my daughter is almost 16 and has come to me to say she has lost her virginity with her boyfriend 🥹 whilst I’m happy she’s comfortable to tell me, it’s a massive shock. She said they were both ready and they used protection. However, I’m now thinking contraception would be a good idea? I’ve suggested the pill to her and she said she will have a think. Has anyone else been through this? Is the pill a good idea? Is the implant better for her maybe?
Any advice would be great

Buy her condoms and book an appointment with the GP or sexual health clinic.

Tell her to still use condoms as no contraception is 100% effective, and nothing other than condoms protect against STDs. Talk to her about consent etc and make sure she knows just backseat they’ve had sex once doesn’t mean she has to again, it’s not a blanket yes to all future sex with him.

I put on a brave face when she told me, as I felt grateful that she felt she could tell me, but I definitely feel like I’m struggling with the idea of it all. Feel like I’m on edge now a bit. It’s such a strange feeling isn’t it!

Yes we’ve had a chat and decided the pill is the best bet for now, so gonna get that sorted asap.

Unwarranted opinion but she is lucky you are her mother to feel safe to talk about things like this!

Definitely I support having a talk about contraception and safe sex! You can also get her the We are luna app as it has loads of sexual health content there that's super reliable and teen-friendly. She can also ask medical experts anonymous questions if she has any questions (beats going on tiktok imo)

Ive been going through this with my 15 yo. She started off using condoms, resulting in needing the morning after pill twice. Once I knew, I took her to the GP to get the Pill. She had bad breakthrough building so now we are going to the young people's sexual health clinic to get an implant. Which is what I wanted her to do from the start (she is too chaotic for most other forms of contraception).

I would go to the sexual health clinic. We have a local teenage one. They provide loads of information aimed at teens and can talk through all the different types of contraceptive to find what's right for them. Pill we could get straight away but she wanted the impant so we go back on Monday to have that done. My worry with the pill was DD remembering to take it daily!

My DD has just turned 17 and got the implant last week. She is still a virgin and not in a relationship. I just thought it would be best to be prepared. When the time comes she also knows that two forms of contraception are required, implant for pregnancy and condoms for STI's.

At least I don't have to worry about her getting pregnant in the next three years and she van concentrate on her studies.

I agree with the teen sexual health clinic & hopefully they'll steer her towards an implant. I think most teens are too scatty/fall over the place to remember to take the pill correctly and 'it'll be fine' when they forget/throw up.

hopefully they'll stress condoms too, no matter what the boy says.

Also as others have said, talk to her again about just because they have had sex, doesn't mean she can't say 'no' going forward!

plus a lot of what boys 'expect' sex to be like now is porn fuelled & she doesn't have to go along with it (anal, fisting etc) because he tells her she's 'frigid' or whatever or because he says 'everyone else does it.

im in the unenviable position of hearing teenagers talk about these things to their friends & it can be bloody grim!!

hopefully it's not like that for your DD but better to have these (awkward) conversations do she feels more confident to say 'no' if she doesn't want to do things he's asking/trying

The FSRH (Facukty of sexual and repro health) has a really good interactive website to help yp choose the right method for them. Sorry I'm rubbish at doing links but check it out - my dd found it very helpful.

I think something fitted like the implant or the injection is better at this age so you don't get the whole i forgot to take my pill. However it will be 100% her choice on what she chooses