When to intervene with friendships?

[Fleckle]

DD13 has got in with a bad crowd. They regularly meet up to get drunk, vape. DD has tried it but hasn’t been drunk yet (as far as I’m aware) but I’m so worried about her spending time with them. I’m sure it won’t be long until she gets really caught up in it all.

Everything I read says don’t stop teens from seeing their friends because you’ll push them closer to them. But surely when it comes to risky behaviour and safety you have to?

I want to keep her safe. How do I do that without pushing her away?

Urghh it's a nightmare isn't it? I really feel for you.
I went through the exact same thing with my DS a few months ago, caught him in a vape shop and found out he'd been drinking coz he was mixing with a few wrong uns..we grounded him for a month and took his phone off him for a month..I know it seems extreme but it definitely worked he distanced himself from those mates and reconnected with the decent ones, got a lovely gf, signed up for DofE and has found a part time job.
It was a reset he needed. He also apologises and understands why we went to the lengths we did.
It's bloody hard work trying to figure out what to do for the best.It made me realise that kids are so easily influenced by others and it's a scary concept.
Best of luck with what ever you decide to do 💛

Going through the same thing with my 13 year old DS right now. Phone has been taken and we’re trying to get through to him with calm open discussions but it’s so worrying and stressful.