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MissJohnson1988 · 22/05/2025 23:44

My 13 year old daughter recently had her first experience of a relationship, swiftly followed by her first experience of a break up! This had prompted a series of somewhat awkward and embarrassing conversations between us about the more mature aspects of relationships. One such conversation lead to the creation of a new protocol we decided to put into place… we call it the pineapple protocol!

Long story short we devised a plan between us that if she were ever to find herself in any sort of situation that she felt uncomfortable with and she needed to leave without a fuss being made she would immediately send me a pineapple emoji and I would then call her and make an excuse to demand she come home or I pick her up from wherever she was in order to get her out of the situation without her having to make any awkward excuses! ( it would be entirely my fault) we also came to an understanding that no matter how embarrassing or awkward she felt with whatever had occurred she could tell me all about it with the understanding that I would not judge her in any way shape or form as she was comfortable enough to call on me to save her from whatever was going on.

I pledged not to place her at fault for ending up in ANY situation that could have become worse for her!

we have called on this protocol a couple of times now!

she just told me that some of her friends have friend like relationships with their parents but that our relationship is actually something far far better! She said your my ride or die mum and my guardian angel ☺️ iv never been happier or prouder in my life ❤️😍🙏🏽

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Typin · 22/05/2025 23:47

Same but without the pineapple. Or the 'ride or die' bit.

Walkerzoo · 22/05/2025 23:51

Fab idea. Mine are younger but I will start to use this even with play dates. Thank you for sharing

YourAquaTurtle · 30/05/2025 14:47

This is honestly so lovely to read, you've built an amazing foundation with her. The pineapple protocol is absolute genius, I'm going to be using that with my daughter! It’s also such a great reminder that open, judgement-free conversations go a really really long way.
Also, my DD uses the health & wellbeing Luna app (weareluna.app), it's fab for reinforcing this kind of connection and encourages convos between teens and parents. It gives girls support around relationships, boundaries, and all the big feelings, but in their own space and time :)
Wish my teen would call me her ride or die, I love that!!!

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