teenage mums

[teenmum08]

let me no your veiws

On what aspect?

well i think a mother is a mother at the end of the day, no matter what age. but I don't think that having a child in your teenage years is exactly...ideal.

why do you want to know?

I was a teenage Mum

I am now a 26 year old with 5 dc

What are your opinions? and what exactly do you want to know?

i have no views what ever age you are you can be a crap mum or good mum

people like to put it down to age i have many mums my age who are crap and many teen mums i know who are fab

i think people just tend to think you can do more with life before having a child that no doubt complicates things but doesnt stop your life but such as travel clubbing just being young

then settle down but we all know it doesnt always happen that way i think as long as teen mum is focused on being best mum she can be then its there life to live

you can still go college as most have creches now so can eduacte yourself further still i am glad i waited as was able to do all the things i wanted without hassles of baby sitters sleepless nights

cazboldy hats off to you i struggle with 1 and im 28 you must be a fab mum x

your children are adorable x

I try bubblagirl

well by the looks of it you have done a great job looks like i can come to you for advise

Thank you

If you want to

thanks well you clearly know what your doing parenthood is still a new thing for me i have 1 ds 3 and love it but still dont know everything

and your a shining example to the whole teen mum thing just looking at your dc speaks volumes

you never know everything!

i had my daughter ellie when i was 18, it was hard but it came pretty naturally to me.

late sleepless nights did'nt really effect me and because i didnt have time to get use to buying myself things and doing what i wanted when i wanted it didnt bother me that i was now having to devote all my time to a little helpless baby..

however i did find the opinions of strangers harder to take. they seem to feel the need to comment on everything. what clothes i had put her in. what i gave her to eat,where i took her out...

to be honest it doesnt matter what age you are you can be 13 and the most amazing mum out there or 42 and not give a c**p..

I am very lucky, it has all worked out for me.....

met dh at 13
pg at 14
ds1 born when I was 15
married at 16
dd1 when I was 18
ds2 when i was 19
ds3 whe I was 24
dd2 when I was 25

picture of a success story if there ever was one i think

not just to young mums but any age mum really as mother hood is challenging at any age

but really cazboldy you really seem such a great mum and you had it all young child marraige really a success story there

The only woman I know who had a baby at 16 is also the BEST mother I know. It's not ideal from her perspective, she had to put a lot of things on hold, but if I was ever to put someone in charge of organising someting it would be her, and not her "Manager" older sister.

i was 17 when i had dd, and had ds when i was 20...i am now at college doing an access to social work course, and i personally feel that age is but a number. my mum had my brother when she was 20 and me in her 30s and she is a very selfish woman who had no time for us whatsoever....she has acknowleged the fact that i am a better mum than she could ever be....so has her own mother. It is not what i want for my daughter when she gets older but who knows what will happen

i was pg at 16 whilst doing my gcse's. I had ds1 at 17; ds2 at 19 and have just had dd at 23. I also have a dss who is 6.

We are married,together 5 years, i have done a degree and 4 A-levels since having dc.

You can be a good parent at 16 or a rubbish one at 40 - its down to the individual. Some teens will find it hard - you have to be quite selfless as a parent.....but again others will find that hard at 40.

There are pros to being so young, i dont get tired, but i think that has to do with my dh being the best man i know and an excellent father and husband to me.

I loved being a teen parent - i have always wanted children and will prob have another one.

also the sterotype of a vicky pollard type teenage mum does not help us - we are all expected almost to be useless at parenting before we even start. i actually think the majority of us strive to be the best we can to prove that wrong - alot of us are married, hold jobs (or our other halves do) and do everything by the book for our dc.

Even small things like the HV's assuming i would FF, want an epidural etc....because i was young and alot of q's about how i was coping and do my parents help... (no)

Although when i take dc to school i think woah i am old enough to take a child to school! lol

lol scorpio.... my ds1 starts secondary school in september

bubblagirl - you are very kind x