16 year old DD is heartbroken

[Claudette7934]

Dd has been dumped by boyfriend of two and a half years. Complicated by the fact that they are in the same year at school, have common friends, lessons together. He’s being particularly nasty and it’s all a bit toxic but it’s impossible to ignore him and anyway she’s still in love with him for now.

Any tips of navigating this and how long it’s likely to take to get over it. She’s constantly crying and is just so sad.

Your poor daughter. Suggest focusing on helping her cope with the nastiness primarily whether that is ignoring or blocking. Careful about being too critical of him as they may well get back together - teen ends of relationships I don't think often that definitive! School might be able to support with moving classes for her if need be x

Oh no, that's unpleasant. Is she doing GCSES at the moment? That would be hideous timing.
I would get her to block him on her phone if he's still messaging her. Phone use generally may be a problem if this is permeating larger group chats.

I agree, she should block him and start ramping up time spent with friends she may have neglected while with ex,

If school is awkward, you can ask for study leave so she can study for GCSEs at home without being distracted by gossip, verbal teasing, and so on.

Y12, she’s a July birthday. Thank goodness it’s not last year or next year.

God, I hope they don’t get back together.

Oh no, it's horrible. I remember it well. There's not a lot you can do only listen and be there for her. She should block him, but I wouldn't have done that for any amount of money when I was that age in that scenario as you're desperate and ready to seize any scrap of hope of reconciliation. It's a question of time.

Left field but I’d give her a copy of The Rules to read personally. Then hopefully she’ll be more equipped keep her dignity in the break up and to navigate romantic relationships going forward and avoid getting hurt again. Might even help her to see that he wasn’t a great option in the first place.

Oh god I empathize, having been through it with dd2 twice and looking like she is heading for a third time too. Absolutely heartbreaking to watch them go through it.

I really feel for you. All we can do is be there and support....