Coping with your own mental health

[Onceuponatime46]

Hello,

wondering if anyone has any tips on how to cope with their own mental health whilst navigating the teenage years. I am finding the stress, anxiety, worry is effecting my sleep and headspace and even my ability to have fun.

I have two teenagers who are finishing secondary/in sixth form. They are both girls and the hormone rage is unbelievable. They are up and down like yo-yos. Happy, sad, angry. Lonely, social, fun, bored - all the time. I just don’t know how to look after myself so that I am strong enough to cope with it.

I worry all the time! I even consider leaving my job sometimes just so I concentrate on the kids - but I know that’s a terrible idea as really it’s probably the only thing that’s keeping me sane!

I worry they are damaged by my poor partnering (extreme I know) and how they will navigate the world when they leave home. We have a lovely home, lots of love, time together, holidays…. But is this enough? It’s so scary isn’t it. Will the kids be ok?! Will we be ok after they leave home?!

any ideas gratefully received.

Gently, I'd look at counselling for yourself to get your anxiety under control. They are doing okay, (they sound like normal teens!) but you want to be able to enjoy yourself and live without constantly stressing. Your work might have a scheme where you can get some sessions free x

Yes , counselling for you ! You are riding the rollercoaster with them and need to find a way to separate yourself as independent from their lives - that way you can be the calm/ guiding presence when they are up and down .
consider what is within your control and what isn’t x