What would you do

[Treebee123]

Hi
i am after some advice. Our child has said a couple of times that she feels unloved and we treat her siblings different to her. We do not, all are very different, different personalities and difference interests but we love the differences. We randomly spot check their phones and when checking her phone found she had texted a friend saying how she wants to change her name and ghost us when she is 18. Obviously this is very upsetting but not sure how to handle it. Have tried talking in past but don’t want to say we have seen a text either. She is just 13 so could be teenagers normal response - at home she seems fine not angry with us. Should I say something or wait it out.

Typical teenage chat I'd say. Wait it out. Make sure she knows how much you love her. One of my teenagers is definitely harder work and I really really try to treat them all the same but it's so difficult.

Wait it out. She’s only 13 and still figuring out her place in the world. Just let her know you love her and keep on keepin’ on.

(and don’t say anything about reading her texts…)

I'm sure I said some incredibly dumb things at this age in order to sound cool - I would try to look at her actions and behaviours rather than things she says to friends.