Parents and Teens relationship hardship

[TiredParent999]

Hi ,

We are parents of a teenage daughter .

Our daughter was nice until she was 11 years . Now she is 13 . We observed

1. She is getting aggressive on small small issues
2. She is wrongly understanding parents
3. Sometimes she is deliberately hurting parents with words and actions
4. She is nice with friends , relatives
5. We observed she has negative attitude or perspective
6. She doesn't listen or willing to listen anything.Getting pissed off on small feedbacks from teachers or parents
7. Her mood swings quickly with in a minute from being happy to sad to crying to screaming

Can you help us in dealing and making her better and happy adult or citizen going forward

Give us any ideas or suggestions or tools which will help us .

Thanks lovely parents.

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@TiredParent999 "making her better and happy adult or citizen going forward"

is this post authentic????

13 years old is not an adult.

Hi , I was referring to in future how we can have good relation with her and what are the changes we need to make and what are the tips suggestions we can implement now to grow her so that she can good listening and understanding skills.

We don't want her to be sad and having bad opinion on us which I feel is gap or communication issue.we would like to sort it out going forward so that she can focus on career , life and also have good understanding with us.

suggestions:
Don't complain about minor things, pick a few big issues
Let her room stay messy
Give her responsibility and respect even if she messes up
Shower praise on her, if she does anything (like hoover the floor if you ask), make her feel useful
Keep on doing fun things together and showing you love her
Ignore the attitude if possible- or just say 'I don't like being spoken to like that' and move on