I'm at the end of my tether and don't know what to do next.
Ds is 13, he's the youngest of 4 but only dd18 at home now. I have 2 grown up ds's, with a different father.
Xh and I separated over a year ago now. For various legal reasons (probate etc) we are still legally living in the same house, although he stays with his gf except for 2 weekday nights and Friday and Saturday every other weekend. He's been with her for nearly a year .......... yes, I know. It probably is what it looks like.
I'm also with someone and I stay with him on the nights that xh is here, although I don't have to, my xh has been fairly abusive to me so I'd rather not be there.
So..... ds has never liked school. He finds it difficult and he's come to hate it. He has a history of school refusal for over a year, but I'd mainly got it sorted. But he's being using it, I think, as form of control over his father. Initially, it was just the days that he was with his father - no homework would be done, and he'd refuse to go in. This meant that I'd have to go in to him on my way to work and get him to school, making me late, as xh just goes to work.
The has now increased and he's difficult 90% of the time, but this morning, for instance, he was absolutely no bother at all. Last night he refused point blank to do his homework, and he already has an hours detention after school today for messing around in class last week. We now have two incidences of him stealing alcohol. One was on Saturday when he must have been going through his sister's room with his friend who was over for a sleepover. My xh didn't hear them, but he goes to bed really early and has never heard the kids. Ever. So now sleepovers are banned.
All he wants to do is go out with his friends. If I said no, I'm pretty sure that he'll just go anyway.
Help!! I literally don't know what to do for the best at the moment.