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Oldtiredandabitbroken · 23/03/2025 10:04

First time here! My daughter 15 is a very talented sportswoman and also doing very well at school and popular etc etc. However with me she is awful. She has an older sister who tells me I’m too soft on her but she has been through some really terrible times so I understand why she acts out. The problem is that it’s destroying me - I work very hard and she’s still annoyed if I can’t get her everything she wants. Most people see her as dedicated and her goals are quite likely to be achieved so I want to support her. However she says she doesn’t like me being around and that I make everything worse. I’m scared of her temper and it seems I’ve created a monster. She says if she has to give her sport up she will kill herself. She won’t talk to anyone about it and the school say she’s absolutely fine. I’m worried that I’m going about everything wrong and don’t actually know what to do. I can’t tell my friends what’s she’s like with me because I want them to like her and obviously I do love her - I just can’t carry on like this.

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TheFunnyPinkWriter · 23/03/2025 13:34

My son (14) can be like this - I believe it is due to the pressure put on him by being good at his chosen sports, however I absolutely refuse to stand for it.
He knows if he talks to me like crap or treats me or his dad with zero respect, we default into "basic parenting" eg making sure he is fed, clothed, clean and has somewhere to sleep. Everything else becomes his problem including getting to his sports, he usually backs down when he realises how much we do for him in terms of making sure he has everything he needs and is at training/matches on time.
I regularly remind him that you get more bees with honey than lemon!

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