Dd going to new boyfriend house

[seventiesborn]

Dd is 15 and started seeing a boy who is a year older. We have met him as he came to our house last weekend. He seemed a nice boy and was polite and friendly. He has asked her to go to his house this weekend. We told our dd that if they went up to her room the door must be kept open and we were home the whole time. I’m just a bit concerned how I check that his parents are home and if they will be allowed in his room. How do I check this out?

Phone them the parents. When our son was this age we talked to the girl’s parents and agreed the rules which were different in each house, but agreed to by all.
Our GDs boyfriend told his parents he was going to stay with her when her parents were away and his parents rang to check that this was ok.

You can’t stop teenagers having sex if they want to so make sure you have talked to her about contraception and the consequences of getting pregnant. We always took the view that we would sooner they had sex in safety in our own home rather than in the park, which is what my yr 10 pupils told me they did. Which would you prefer?

Heaven forbid they kiss and fumble and it might eventually lead to sex one day. Do you have so little confidence in your daughter that you think she will instantly have sex the minute she's alone with him? Are you so uptight you'd hate the idea of them having a snog in a private room? I mean that's part of the fun of being a teenager. 16 year old boys can also be shy and inexperienced and and not always out to get girls into bed instantly.

Apart from the fact the kids involved are only 3 months apart in age and she is the one who is 16 we are in a similar place right now.

I'm very pleased they are coming here this time, as I'd actually like to meet her! It didn't cross my mind to check her parents would be around when he went there. Quite frankly, if they want an empty house, all they need to do is come home from school together!