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Teenagers

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Teenage girl drama

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StrawberryStresKake · 23/02/2025 17:50

Hey guys I have an almost 14 year old daughter and her bff parents have always been very strict about who she hangs out with. Over the years, the parents have not not been letting the girls hang out and have no idea why. I also did try communicating with her parents and I didn't get much of a response, which I thought was odd. My daughters bff says it's because they just don't like us, but that's just hearsay. I didn't really think much of it until they actually said the two weren't allowed to talk on the phone anymore. Should I still allow them to be friends Now the girls just sneak around behind her bffs parents backs just to keep their friendship going. It's so stressful for me to because I know the truth and it's like I'm lying too. And I know that the girls can't continue the friendship like this it's so unhealthy. Any advice is appreciated!! This is just some of things that were done in this "friendship." I've never done anything wrong to these people and now they just say hey you can't be friends here anymore! Has anyone ever experienced this before? And what would you do?

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Daffodilpup · 23/02/2025 17:52

I’d say it’s up to them to police their daughter and you are happy for them to be friends so your daughter isn’t doing anything wrong in sneaking around - it’s their daughter who is sneaking around. If they don’t want them to be friends they need to ensure it doesn’t happen it’s not your problem.

Littletreefrog · 23/02/2025 17:54

Stay out of it. If the bat shit parents ask you a direct question I wouldn't lie but other than that nothing to do with you.

AtlasPine · 23/02/2025 17:56

The parents need to tell you why they’ve made such a dramatic ban if they want you onside.

StrawberryStresKake · 23/02/2025 17:57

That’s what I would love to know! I’ve done nothing wrong to these people!

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DancingHippos · 23/02/2025 18:03

You won't find out what you did to upset them, if anything.
Their daughtet won't want to upset you and wants to keep seeing your daughter. It's unlikely the parents will tell you.
I'd encourage some honest dialogue between your daughter's friend and parents but that isn't always possible.
Just carry on. It's for the friend to deal with.

Zaichik · 23/02/2025 22:03

Daffodilpup · 23/02/2025 17:52

I’d say it’s up to them to police their daughter and you are happy for them to be friends so your daughter isn’t doing anything wrong in sneaking around - it’s their daughter who is sneaking around. If they don’t want them to be friends they need to ensure it doesn’t happen it’s not your problem.

This.

Notgivenuphope · 23/02/2025 22:06

Are they from a different culture? Or are they those super academic weirdos who just want achieve achieve achieve to the detriment of their child’s need for friendships?

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