17 year old exams and separation of parents

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How can I support my 17 year old daughter. Husband told me he had an affair and Will move out. She is in her final year at school.
How best can I support her.

I’m sorry this is happening. I guess you have to be honest and make sure she doesnt think it is in any way to do with her.

I would post this under relationships for more traffic.

Does she have a plan for next year? I was in a similar situation and just kept home as stable as possible, whilst being selectively honest with the dcs. I focused on their next steps, and reassured them that I was going to be fine in the end.

What a selfish prick doing that in the run up to her exams.

It sounds like you and her can remain in your home, which is positive, minimising upheaval for her.

I would tell her everything will be ok, present yourself as ok even if you’re not at all ok.

Sorry you are facing this op.

I think you have to be as honest as possible; while obviously protecting her from any fallout as best you can.

I think your dd will to some extent take her cue from how you handle it. Teens are watching even when they pretend to uninterested. Depends to a certain extent on her relationship with her dad.

I also think you need to gently lay out expectations in a very kind way saying that you want her to still focus on her studies and how important they are, but that she can come to you any time with any problems.

It’s a very hard thing to steer because you have to go through something very emotionally challenging yourself while remaining strong for your dc. It helps to get support for yourself if you need it. Good luck.

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Thank yoi

Thank you everyone. Great advice

Same happened to me before DS GCSEs around this time last year. Ex stayed in the house until after (about 3-4 months) but made himself scarce. We kept it quiet - or at least thought we did. Of course DC knew. I found the exam run up a good distraction to be honest, as I think did DS. He passed, we survived! It is horrible, you have my sympathy, but the advice about stability and keeping things calm is spot on. Take care of you too of course - fresh air, friends, pets, whatever keeps you on the level