let me start by saying I would do anything to help my child but he doesn't seem to want it and is unwilling to acknowledge anything is wrong.
has had period of school refusal in years 9 and 10 mainly after half term breaks. nothing long term just a day or two. however now in year 11 he has only been to school maybe 6 times since September.
He does not think school is important and just doesn't think about it. knows this is causing myself and my ex husband a lot of distress and we are in trouble with local authority. It still does not motivate him to go to school.
No punishments work. No routine helps, he just lays in bed all day then at 3 when his friends are finished school gets dressed and goes out with them. A few instances of him smelling like cannabis but infrequently, maybe 5 times in 6 months.
since August 2024 his dress style has changed and music, both a lot darker. dyed his blonde hair black.
had a girlfriend for 2 years who broke up with him in September as she did not like who he was becoming.
had no contact with his father for 2.5 years, Christmas 2023 they started in regular contact and seeing each other almost weekly. We broke up when he was 9 and he had 50/50 living arrangement for the first 12 months which slowly petered out to zero contact (Ex's doing not mine)
he missed his final year of primary school due to covid but had lots of friends at secondary and was thriving.
same appetite as usual.
currently living in rental while our house is refurbed, he's scratched thinks into the paintwork in his room, got burn marks in his carpet even though he knows we need to keep it pristine.
our house is due for completion very soon but yesterday he visited, has put a huge mucky mark up one of the the newly painted walls and also forgot to put the key back in the keysafe meaning the work is pushed back a day as they could not access property today.
We have seen the GP they said he doesn't present as depressed and have I considered he might have Autism.
We've seen a family support worker who had to close the case as she wanted to meet him in school but he won't go to school, and we now have had an initial appointment with a youth worker and waiting for our first therapeutic appointment but its me pushing these things, he doesn't see anything's wrong.
this post it probably terribly outing but I wanted to include everything.