DS (15) and diagnosed ASD is grinding me down. We’ve always had trouble getting him to complete homework and we have agreed with school that he only does what he can manage but this is usually nothing unless I can coax him to complete the simplest and quickest task. The school has been ramping up testing since Year 9, mainly so that the kids who are mostly on the spectrum or have some form of SEN are familiar with the process and know exactly what to expect in a timed exam. DS has become increasingly resistant to doing any tests despite having loads of access arrangements in place. He gets overly anxious because he feels he will fail (he regularly scores top in all subjects). Every night before bed I get the same conversation about why does he have to do tests, if they stop testing he won’t be worried anymore. We’ve gone over and over this time and time again but it just doesn’t register with him. I feel like it’s Groundhog Day. I’ve been supportive - that doesn’t work. Tonight I ended up shouting at him because I’m just exhausted with it all. I’ve taken away any demands and yet he worries then that he’s not doing enough revision, I can’t win. Now I feel like a right bitch for shouting at him.